Sabbath Afternoon

 

Memory Text: “If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly.” Titus 1:6

 

A very important part of being a man is to be a husband. The word husband indicates what the task of a husband is. The word husband is from the Middle English term “houseband” which is made up of two words that in our modern times would be “house” and “band”. The husband in essence is a band; a band is a loop of material put around something, typically to hold it together, and in the husband’s case it would be to hold the family together.

 

In the general modern use of the word husband the word simply means a male in a marital relationship. This modern use and the way most men function in their homes is really true, just a male in a marital relationship without any definite purpose other than for income and tasks like taking out the garbage. As men of God we understand the purpose we are here to serve in our homes, to keep our families together in this world of trouble. The function we play in our homes becomes the function we play in the church. A man that fails to be a house band in his home will fail to be a husband in the church, and in society.

 

This week we are exploring the role of a husband.

 

 

 

Sunday                                                                                                                                  June 12

 

Title: Why is the Function of a husband so important?                                                      

 

You have heard or will hear people say that there are many forces causing the breakup of families. These pressures on the individuals in the home are real and you have to be prepared to work to protect and band your family together. The main element that bands the family together is love. There are many situations that will cause love to die that you will have to work against in order to maintain your family. If you lose at the task of maintaining love in your home, you will find out, like many a man, that your family will be broken up. The Bible is very clear that you are required to love and work to maintain love in your home, and that you are to be willing to make valiant effort to maintain love in your house like Jesus did to save us. Give up on the effort to maintain love in your home and the pressures within and without will cause love to die.

 

What are some of the duties of a husband?

Ephesians 5:25-29

 

 

 

 

Monday                                                                                                                                June 13

 

Title: Immorality                                                    

 

An immoral life will cause us to not be able to be a band in our home but instead be the cause of much pain and suffering to those that we are called to love and protect. So much violence and pain is brought into the home of men who are drunk or high. So many children are without a father and wives without a husband because they are dead or locked up in prison because of illegal activities. As you observe so many broken young men in under privileged communities they seem to all have the same story, that their fathers were not there to hold the family together. Over and over again it will be said that their fathers walked out on the family, or is in prison, or is dead because he was chasing after immorality and simple just could not get along with their mother. Many homes are broken up because the father was an adulterer. And still other families made a loveless home because of the husband chasing after riches at the expense of his wife and children. In all these things when sins get the mastery over us what follows is brokenness and love simply dies.  

 

Why is the characteristics of an elder a good template for a husband to follow?

1 Timothy 3:2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach; 

 3:3 Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous; 

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Who has a happier home, a true husband or a man in a marital relationship?

 

 

 

Tuesday                                                                                                                                June 14

 

Title: Communication

 

One aspect of being a good husband is to be vigilant, and this is especially true when it comes on to what communication are you and your household partaking of and how you and your household communicate to each other. There are some communication rules to be seriously enforced in your home. No baseless accusation, no railing accusation, no, “who is better than the other” competition (everyone has their strengths and weaknesses), celebrate each other’s accomplishments, no evil surmising, and speak the truth. It is important for you to work against things like competitive and violent sports and movies. You must discourage entertainment like soap opera, sitcoms, and debasing reality shows. These forms of corrupt communications will corrupt the minds of your household and poison the family communication. Another aspect of corrupt communication is listening to false teachings whether it be conspiracy theories, false philosophy, false doctrines, or covetous musings, these types of communication cause much strife and arguments in households which often ends with much bitterness and even hate. As a husband you will often have to work against these corrupting influences that are put forth by immoral individuals.            

 

What two characteristics should mark our communication?

Proverbs 15:1-2

 

 

What will be the end result if we learn from false teachers?

1 Timothy 6:3-5

 

 

Why should we learn to maintain our calm?

Proverbs 29:22 An angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious man aboundeth in transgression.

 

 

 

 

Wednesday                                                                                                                         June 15

 

Title: Peace                                     

 

Have you ever heard a child said, “he hit me first”? Normally that statement is followed by a similar action, which often results in a fight. Many of us are taught that we should fight back so that we are not viewed as a push-over or soft, but this does not work in a home setting and will lead to an escalation that we will regret. It is the husband’s duty to be a peace maker without giving in to evil. So you might ask, how about self-defense? You will find throughout your life that rarely is self-defense needed and especially not in a home situation. If you ever need to defend yourself in your home, do what you can to survive and get out of there and just accept the fact that you made a bad choice and try to choose a wife next time. When you are a husband according to the Biblical model and not just a male married to a female, it is important that you are firm on the fact that certain behavior will not be tolerated. Now from that point of view you make it your duty to be the first to seek peace, to ask for forgiveness, to try to settle disagreements, to cool a bad situation down, and to not take revenge. Being a peace maker does not mean you go along with every and anything, that will cause more problems, but it does mean you are willing to go the extra mile so that peace can reign in your home.     

 

What would you call warmongers?

Matthew 5:9 Blessed [are] the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God. 

 

 

 

Thursday                                                                                                                              June 16

 

Title: Kind Affection                                              

 

The sad reality of life is that we are not perfect, neither physically or in character. These imperfections can cause problems in our relationships but we are called to work with what we have and to begin where we are at. We cannot ignore the imperfections in others because they are often obvious and painful to deal with, but we can love what is good and beautiful in each other. A way to band your family together is to love what is good in each other and don’t make a mountain out of things that are bad in your family. There will be times when wrongs have to be addressed but that time will not be always. Let your love for your family be expressed and shown. This does not mean that wrongs are not pointed out but imperfection cannot be the focus of your communication. Love in deed and word must be the focus of the experience in your home. In all our dealings we strive to be like Jesus who loved us and gave himself for us. It is my desire that you will start to practice these principles and you will see how happier your life and those around you will be.

 

How should you behave in your home? 

Romans 12:9-10

 

 

 

 

Friday                                                                                                                                        June 17

 

“The divine love emanating from Christ never destroys human love, but includes human love, refined and purified. By it human love is elevated and ennobled. Human love can never bear its precious fruit until it is united with the divine nature and trained to grow heavenward. Jesus wants to see happy marriages, happy firesides. The warmth of true friendship and the love that binds the hearts of husband and wife are a foretaste of heaven. God has ordained that there should be perfect love and perfect harmony between those who enter into the marriage relation. Let bride and bridegroom in the presence of the heavenly universe pledge themselves to love one another as God has ordained they should.” {E. G. White In Heavenly Places, p 202.3}

 

Discussion questions

Share with the class what section of this week’s study you find inspiring, challenging, or difficult to understand.

 

Prepare to discuss with the class the problems with the various types of communication listed on Tuesday’s lesson.

 

What is your understanding of the difference between the old and the new use of the word husband?